The Gaming
Gaming begins in the first minute of conversation. As soon as you’ve both spoken and it begins going back and forth, it’s ON. Here are some initial suggestions for this part of the world. Some things ARE the same as in the west (i.e. confidence), and some things are vastly different. Most important is that you never stop gaming. Remain confident, mingle a lot, and you will strike gold…it’s that simple. Remember, these tips are agreed on by three westerners now living in Europe, and all three are very accomplished ladies’ men!
Be Mysterious. Just like with the openers, only disclose information about yourself if it’s needed (i.e. to spur the conversation initially. A bad reply to “Where are you from” is “Boston”. She goes “Ahhh” and then you need to pull a rabbit out of your hat to save the flow. A better reply is “A place far, far away. Tell me, what is the best disco in town?”. See? You’ve allowed her curiosity to go unsatisfied & now she’s hooked. This is standard PUA fundamental stuff, but it’s even more important when out of town….virtually everything about you is a mystery, and it’s up to you to use that to your advantage!
Avoid Flag-Waving behavior: The quickest way to scare off females is to be overtly patriotic in a foreign land. It might seem like common sense to think, “OK, girls here like British guys….so why not all wear british football jerseys? Let EVERYONE know we’re brits?”
The answer – because it’s try-hard. Keep your nationality private. Talk to many people and it will come up dozens of times a night, trust me. And that way it doesn’t look like you’re trying to use it as some kind of currency. If you REALLY want to spend the night alone, walk through city squares in groups singing football fight songs from back home. lol Forget the Mystery stuff: Leave the negs where they belong….in the west.
Social proof has it’s place, as does peacocking. But the negs / group dynamics are far too randomly successful here to be used effectively.
Confidence + Mystery + Social = getting laid. Forget the A3 / C2 stuff. lol Seem well-travelled: Even if you’ve only been a couple places outside of your country, exaggerate when you can. If you find out she’s never left Germany for instance, you can safely talk about your trip last spring to Hawaii or your summer sailing adventure in New Zealand. How the hell will she know that you’re lying?! haha Use your wing to your advantage: One thing so many guys don’t use to their advantage is their wingmen. Always amp up the coolness of each other. It’s easy, it’s effective, and there’s no reason not to do it! For instance, when my friend Jake goes to the toilet, I tell the girls he used to date Miss America 2005 in college. When I go to the toilet he might tell them that I personally know a famous band or famous actress….whatever. Use your imagination & make each other into superstars. The reap the rewards!